I never considered writing about being bisexual here. After all, what does it have to do with anything? Sure, I heard David Cameron say that gay marriage is:
“an important step forward, that strengthens society”
but I must confess I thought: “Who wants to get married anyway?” Then I inadvertently clicked on “viewpoints, gay marriage” and found this piece of wisdom from the Church of England:
“Gay couples can be excellent parents but it’s not the same as having the biological inheritance of both parents passed on to the child.”
I used to think that the C of E was the thinking person’s catholicism, but now I have doubts. Has Malcolm Brown done a scientific study to see if the quality of parenting is really different? Does he know a lot of gay parents? He claims the church does not see gay people as a threat, but I sure think Malcolm does. Like many, he seems to think that marriage has to be protected from the influence of gay people. Is he at all familiar with Dalrymple observing that:
“British children are much likelier to have a television in their bedroom than a father living at home.”
It looks like marriage was going downhill long before gay people got in on it. I could paint some awful pictures of traditional family life going horribly wrong, but I’m sure we’ve all seen plenty of those already.Luckily, there’s a completely different way to go on with this story. One evening I came across American artist iO Tillett Wright on TED. You should really see “50 shades of gay”, but basically, she:
“decided to photograph anyone in this country that was not 100 percent straight, which, if you don’t know, is a limitless number of people.”
Later on she asked the people participating to quantify exactly how gay they were, because if we want to discriminate against gay people, we have to draw the line somewhere. Many people did not know how to answer that question. According to iO:
“they had never been presented with the option before.”
She found a 1000 different shades of gay! As my psychology textbook describes it: If you say people are gay or lesbian when they’ve ever had a homosexual experience, that would be 20% of us.
If you just look at the people who were lucky (I hope!) to have had such an experience in the past year, 1 to 3% of us would be out of a job, (if they happened to be a teacher at a certain Dutch faith-based school).
“When exactly do you become a second class citizen?”
That is iO’s final question. And mine.