I got the idea for this post because I recently made a comment. I read a post, felt inspired, wanted to let the writer know. So I wrote a comment. I tried to keep it short and sweet, posted it, and then realised I was on the wrong track. Just imagine any of these:
My comment sounded like criticism. The person reading it felt hurt.
I had read my own thoughts into the words of somebody else; they could not have had the foggiest idea what I was on about.
In trying to keep it short, I managed to make it convoluted. You’d need to be in my brain to make any sense of it.
This happened several times and I did not try to remedy it, knowing from experience that I would only draw attention to myself instead of making things right. So, if you know who you are, please accept my belated apology.
I like this!
I’ve read several posts on the use of the ‘like’ button, but I find commenting even more of a challenge. Often I really like what I’ve just read, but all I can think of is: ‘Great post’ or ‘My thoughts exactly’. Would that be of interest to you as a writer? That last remark might even sound patronising.
In an attempt not to fall into that trap, I might try to be original, or funny. This poses an even greater risk. Irony is not cherished or understood by every other blogger. You can trust me on this one, because I speak from personal experience. There is one mathematician out there interested in my home address. It’s probably just to send the paramedics my way, but you never know, do you?
Other bloggers are real people. They live, breathe and experience feelings. And they might have some awfully impressive IT skills to boot.
Maybe I read a post and find one of mine to be complementary in some way. How can I mention that without sounding as if I am using your blog to advertise my own?
I don’t like that
Saying I don’t agree with something is the hardest.
I feel I’d have to know the person before I try that, and when do you know another blogger?
One of the great advantages of blogging is that less time is spent talking about jobs, spouses, kids, colleagues or generally trying to impress one another. You get to know people in an unconventional way. I don’t want to jeopardise that.
My buddhist friends would advise me to not make any negative comments on principle, but I don’t agree with that. I like a lively discussion. I’m sure there are bloggers out there who really appreciate it when you question what they write. Especially when it’s done in a civilised manner. So, if you feel up to it: try me!